The Crane Conundrum

Love and
The youthful drive to see the world, its art, feed cats, meet inspiring people, learning how to channel that inspiration into ambition and make everyone dance.

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He sends me a box of hundred, he flew a thousand miles. We saw the Eastern sunrise, we battled the Eastern cold. He hangs on the phone till he sleeps, he hangs onto me while I.

Yet when he’s alone, he’s in his own—a simple world I can’t seem to understand. Like a child at the edge of his adolescence, but yearns for his mothers touch.

I’ve walked away before, I’ve hoped for months before. Now should I take a role of a teenager’s mother, or do I want to be a lover

I’ve prolonged my refrain from love;

I write formulas of love, revisit old theories to refine them. 
But how do I refine my forumla, if I’ve havent been in love for such a long time.


I want to be in love; I am not asking for a lot, at no time did I say I want love

Perhaps mostly no one is ever fully ready for love, not at this age, this time, this youth, however everyone falls in love as a parallel regardless of decision, so there isn’t much I can say with much coherence. 

I just want to be in love, even for a while. 

Singapore

On the last night of Beijing the temperature dropped to a -9; I did what I had to do – I went all out and pulled an all nighter, ended the morning screaming “Bohemian Rhapsody”, and barely made it back to my apartment to finish packing.

At 630am my father is outside my door furiously knocking, while I’m still drastically trashed, tripping over my clothes, and hiding books in cupboards hoping he wouldn’t notice. I forgot I use my washing machine as a drawer for my undergarments, so I had to run up and repack them in the lobby. I didn’t have time to wipe my make up off, I assumed I’d look like a student with my spectacles on… but I didn’t, I looked like a junkie – possibly a look that was accepted in 2007, however not in Beijing, on a flight back to Singapore. I had a runny nose, a dry throat, and a shady ass roll of toilet paper. I couldn’t sleep.

It was the worst 8 hours of my life.

At 4pm on Saturday I arrive in Singapore, I made it through. I went home to say hi to my mother who hadn’t contacted me for 3 months—she looked the other way. My phone refused to work, I lost all my contacts in Beijing, The first 72 hours of being in Singapore, I was home for 12 hours at best. I cried in my first humid shower; it wasn’t even in my own house. I came out looking like the Black Swan, with bloodshot eyes and a melted face.

After wallowing for about 10 minutes, I grasped the comfort that surrounded me. Friends who had waited for my homecoming, drove the distance to pick me up, local food that I craved served as a fresh buffet, and a face which I’ve missed for 3 months.

I said before The only form that experiences true pain is your body, but it doesn’t whine like a bitch and brood over perceived pain like the mind.” Why the fuck was I being so dramatic? If anyone should have jilted, it would have been my body, due to the lack of rest I’ve been giving it (if I were to personify my body), but my body was fine, hence, so was my mind.

I left for Sentosa after dinner, and reunited with ma dancahhhhs.

No one was huddling, and everyone was dancing. I felt my feet dig into the sand, and my first sweat in months; I left at 9 and crashed in Stephs bed.

This morning it was a little over 30 degrees, that’s almost a forty degree switch-over, but it’s alright because I’ve thrown my gloves away in exchange for a hat. I also travelled around town in a bus, met my good friends and punctual was my middle name.(hopefully it’ll last) They inspired me to take up scuba diving lessons, although I still have this fear for fish, how it stares right at you when it swims past, how I would rather be in a lion’s den than be consumed in a school of fish. Diving lessons should help curb that fear.

I still miss Beijing though, and slowly but surely, will find my way back.

Sayonara Beijing

Monday I travel to Wudaokou to stay for a night, and I discover how painful it is to scoot in the snow. 
My attempt to visit the Zoo market the next morning failed (woke up at 3), as with my shopping at the Wudaokou clothing market—I barely spent an hour there. However while my cab driver contentedly took me on a joyride, I got to see the Olympic Bird’s Nest, twice. Apparently there isn’t much Chinese food in the northwest, but apparently korean bbq’s a fad. Jing En still impresses me with her understanding of Chinese philosophy.

Then came Tuesday night.

I followed Mei to a ktv because Jay Chou was in town. I’m no a Jay Chou fan; I don’t listen to him, until recently in China as a way to improve my chinese.  Mei had explained what kind of person he was, and it was true. He had this geniune aura about him, fairly an introvert, with a slight hint of confidence that surfaced at unexpected moments.

I couldn’t choose any Chinese songs, because the only ones I knew were his (it would have been awkward). So I stuck to Telephone and All by myself; everyone around me spoke Chinese and I wasn’t much of a conversationalist that night. Instead I just smoked more cigarettes and observed the room.

Then ”An Jing” came on and Mei declares “THIS IS ONLY CHINESE SONG SHE KNOWS”. Initially there was an awkward silence, and I was put in a spot because I usually mock songs I sing at the ktv, but this time, I kind of had to sing it earnestly, especially if he was expecting you to perform it. So I did, he smiled, and we cheersed. Well,  xiao ___ said “chang jiu he” or something along the lines of that. At that moment, it didn’t seem like a big deal, but the next morning, I thought it was a pretty cool experience, being fortunate enough to sing the only chinese song I knew, to the guy who sang it.

After that we decided to head out. We end up smashed at an infamous joint, with people somehow ending up at my place, where I pass out and wake up the next morning going wtf. Our bodies were too tired, and Avicii was that night, but hell it was my last week, and with all the cheesiness “I gotta feeling” by the Black Eyed Peas could have almost been my theme song for that night.

Sober


Not Sober

Getting too old for this.

The next few days were more intimate; I finally tried my “ma la tang”, said my repeated goodbyes, and started packing for Singapore.

 

 Zai Jian

“There were two weeks of “lasts”: the last time I went to this place, the last time I drank in this bar, the last time I saw this person. How did I know this would be the last time? I didn’t, but I have left America twice before and been naive enough to think I would see people again, that I would go back to places. Aside from a few exceptions I never did. I learned that life doesn’t stop its momentum for you, that you don’t get to do a lot of things twice.” - Bart Schaneman, Thought Catalog

I’m glad I was fortunate enough to meet a great portion of amazing company I’ve familarized myself with during these months, over those 2 days – and then some… you gotta have a balance right?

Yakiniku Farewell


Funny Japanese men home-cooked meal farewell


— Not farewell, but our last cigarette together in Beijing.

My last weekend is over. Hopefully I’ll get to revisit a bulk of my favorite past times in Beijing in the forthcoming years, so I assure myself my only lasts are working in a Japanese trading company, or a Japanese company for that matter, unless I decide to have a taste of Japanese liveliness in Tokyo. Also, contrary to my much improved sentiments on life, I’ve engaged in a share of damaging habits. I’m done experimenting for the year and I’m done googling “How to reduce bloat”.

However, what if I don’t come back? People come and go—I would love to say I’ve built a pseudo home here in Beijing, and I would definitely be coming back here in the near future – but what if I don’t? I still have many places I’d like to explore and many aspirations I dream to accomplish. What if this is my last chance to feel so in tune with myself in terms of drive and motivation.“What if” is a dangerous word to materialize in your thoughts;  Nevertheless, circumstances are what they are, and a portion of them you can alter to align it with your goals, but for everything else, you have to make the best out of it. “Life is what you make it” may be a cliché quote, but I always say cliché sayings are usually the most general but accurate representation of wisdom. 

Each experience is exclusive to another, and I take comfort in this; I’ve adapted to “lasts”, consequently this has taught me to greater preserve it. Let’s make this week happen, I still have places to go, people to see. To more “lasts”.

The Twelves

“They play twelve tracks” “DJ Twelve” lol

There’s a small indie club in Beijing called Yugong Yishan; First time I checked it out was about a month back when Steve Aoki was in town, and the entrance is a tiny red door. With all it’s indieness I’d hate to admit it, but it’s my favourite place to dance. Don’t underestimate it’s size, its level of shadiness, and their lack of advertisement, some prominent DJs have made their mark there.

I completely  forgot who The Twelves were, probably like the rest of Beijing who knew of them, because the dance floor was close to empty. We had the whole space to ourselves, running and twirling around the floor, social dancing to electronic music. It echoed a private concert, he (only one of them spun) didn’t need to be a crowd pleaser and played an hour longer than scheduled – it was an awesome night.

On Wednesday, Avicii is in town, and on Saturday I realized I get to see them again at Zoukout in Singapore, along with The Twelves. Within 2 weeks I get to experience them in a cold country and on a beach, yerrr!

“If we’re not supposed to dance,
Why all this music?”

     Gregory Orr, Concerning the Book that is the Body of the Beloved (via soulsublime)

last day of work

I realized that it’s a little strange to publish questions and answers as a post unless it’s considerably appealing, and I don’t really know how to answer them privately. It reminds me why I terminated my Formspring account, except the questions aren’t sexual and some actually made me smile. Ahh, the civilized Tumblr.

This morning I walked out into my lobby, and the weather report states a drop in temperature at -3. The reception said I’d have to wait longer as there were limited cabs so I told them I’ll stand outside and have a cigarette. The rain felt lighter than usual but didn’t leave my skin damp, so I looked closer – It’s the first snow fall in Beijing!What a great way to start my last day at work. Other people whip out their umbrellas and run to the subway station, but I see nothing threatening about these adorable white specks that fall onto your skin, leaving dots of melted snow.

It’s nearing my last weekend here, and I’m feeling progressive pangs of mixed anticipation – mostly somber thoughts of not wanting to leave, tangled with curiosity of how my life would be like once I settle back (even thought about Singlish, I haven’t spoken it in 3 months. I only occasionally sprout it out because people think it’s hilarious). I don’t think I need to mention more times how much I love it here and how life changing this was. I only have a week more and I’ve just sent myself an email of an intense daily itinerary I’ve planned at work. DAW they’re so sweet, they just surprised me with a huge bouquet of flowers.

Two days ago I sealed my first deal. I’ve been exchanging emails with a consultant named Fairy.  We’re currently addressing each other under first name basis, and I’m trying to avoid addressing her as Ms. Fang, because I’m sure she’d know I’m trying to avoid typing “Dear Ms. Fairy”. Anyway, I didn’t think the company was going to follow through, however the guy scheduled a meeting and flew in from Shanghai. The team and my boss weren’t in town, so I was instantaneously made person-in-charge – I nearly shat my pants. I’ve only used the work phone three times, and this was an important arrangement. It started off awkward, with frequent language shifts from Chinese, Japanese and English. Nonetheless, he offered us a 4 project package worth 800,000 tons of CO2 equivalents.

That night I had 2 meals back to back, and confirmed my flight back on the 10th – just in time for Zouk Out.

People always had countless problems with Zouk Out, but I’ve never had a significantly bad experience. Sure, last year Tiesto was overwhelming with crowd and Guetta spun like he worked for 98.7 fm, but I ended up having a chill night by the water listening to above mediocre live music. It’s not that I’m crazy about Zouk Out, even if I seem like I am – (Last year I took a flight from Kashmir a day early alone, and went on a crazy adventure. No boarding pass in Kashmir, randomly bumped up to first class after freaking out about possibly getting raped, being stuck outside in the cold in New Delhi, having to wait for 9 hours etc.; travelling through India is NOT EASY. )—I just think it’s an awesome way to go back to Singhole without feeling depressed, from a place that’s significantly freezing (Kashmir was -4), straight to a sweaty beach party. No?

Anyway it’s my last WEEKEND, and Calvin’s coming up from HK tonight. FUNNERSzzZzz!

“Why is it impossible to finish watching Mission Impossible 3?” – Cause you gotta “deng (wait)deng deng deng, deng deng deng deng…”

Sigh… Chinese jokes. 

 

“And now you stand like a lonely tree
open to all the winds and birds

This afternoon, I had so much rage in me I was about to break down at work.

The words “FUCK THE AMBIGUITY” pounded in my head. I stormed outside in the cold with nothing wrapped around me, just so the bitter chill created a diversion for my exasperation— to let my fit come to a pause, to eradicate and freeze (literally) the spiteful fantasies rousing in my imagination, before I did anything irrational to prove a point.

So I thought, let me introduce you to another kind of ambiguity, it’s called sarcasm. I went for the dinner with a saccharine smile, walked around the round table and poured everyone bai jiu, stood up after dinner and contrived a thank you speech, and shamelessly praised every individual that was seated.

But while I was mouthing empty flattery, I looked at all their genuine smiling faces, it reminded me of how much they’ve taken care of me, despite sexism and tradition; They have invited me into an experience, brought me abroad with them when I had nothing to show, driven me to the clinic when I was ill. Ashamed by my immaturity, my devoid monologue turned into one that was heartfelt, needless of drive to prove a point, and ironically, that was all I needed to prove a point.  


And now you shine like a lake
and whether you want to or not
you reflect the sky”
—  Anna Kamienska, from “On a Sonnet by Leah Goldberg” in Astonishments, trans. Curzon and Drabik

Last Wednesday, the Beijing-based Singaporeans organized a farewell gathering for me at a teppanyaki restaurant.

I was introduced to a new drinking game that incorporates the elements of open numbers, where you float an empty sake cup into a mug of beer, and take turns pouring a strategic amount of sake into the small cup. You lose if the sake shot sinks, and you have to down the whole bomb. I’m horrible at games; I thought “Who’s the king of the hill” was a TV show while Danette was explaining it to me— until today I’ve never grasped Monopoly Deal.

By the time my flaming ice-cream gets served, everyone’s in a slightly intoxicated, jovial mood. It was honestly a little strange when x was ogling about the guys on the opposite table, and how one of them looked like her son. Ironically enough while I sneaked out for a smoke, one of them paced past me and eventually initiated a conversation. I didn’t tell him to fuck off partly because of astrology.com, and also I could tell he was being genuine, and it was refreshingly brave for him given the situation. He asked for my number, but I never know my Chinese number, which is inconvenient, or convenient in some cases.

I spoke to a man, who was in the government, about his daughter and her love for pottery. He initially seemed like a strung-up man, but as he talked about how he wanted to send his 10+ year old daughter to SOTA after she graduated from primary school, I felt a sense of adoration towards him. It’s not common you see a father willingly support his daughter with her dreams from such a young age, especially when what she wants to do is on the complete extreme other end of his profession, something that he doesn’t understand. He’s a trooper too; he lost 6 times and downed em bombs like a champ.

My father, on the other hand (step-father but let’s not offend anyone) kept me a secret until this year. Well, not a secret, his life was mysterious enough, even to me. Yujuan told me that a few years ago his secretary proclaimed to the office “Mr. Chua can’t come in today because his daughter was caught for littering”. I remember that day; he was mumbling off to the cops about how he had to go for some important meeting and to let me off because I was a minor. (He didn’t know my 17 birthday had passed, and that it was a cigarette that I dumped, thus not grasping what “underage offence” they were talking about.) Before I came to China, rumors had it that I was a “nerdy delinquent who was a litterbug”, quote unquote. Now I’ve just confused them because I was the complete opposite of him, but Yujuan told me I was pretty cool so I’ll take her word for it.

These 3 months in Beijing, along with that night, have sprouted my new-found respect for my dad. Now that I’m older and better with empathy, I’ve recognized that he is after all, a peculiar genius. Despite our past that perhaps some people would deem as unforgivable, he has noticeably been a part of my inspiration for art, my mindset on business, and my determination to be fluently trilingual. Of course I undoubtedly love my mother with incomparable amounts, however she, him, they, I, is another conundrum on a whole new level — meanwhile I can only stand with impartial respect for both my parents individually, but not their approach to love.

It was a simple night, but I went to bed in a strangely reflective mood, and a random receipt with a Chinese number.

Margo Selski

Machine In The Garden My Voice Shall Call Your Daughters and Tell them they are Sailors

Let’s make it happen

The Mind’s Illustration

I was in a cab line, or rather, a cab hurdle (winter has come, who would formally queue) during peak hour, and everyone around me transforms into a standing commentary-cum-spectator. When a man cut to the front and got into our (we become an alliance) cab, the people synchronously shouted “xia!” “Ni gei wo xia ba!”, then pulled him out, and proceeded to discuss and review the current taxi situation. It was amusing.

In Singapore, I despised cab queues. Hated it so much I’d contentedly spend over a thousand per month on called cabs. Perhaps now I’ve learnt how to manage my time better, so I can spare the time to embrace the wait. Regardless, someone reminded me of ones ability to change mundane or irking situations into something lively.

When introduced to a topic for the first time, we naturally develop an impression of it, whether it’s parental influence or experiences, some matters are imprinted in our heads as a personal taboo. It paints a picture, a cynical sketch. In Beijing, some people cannot, or refuse to catch up with rapid advancements, therefore the magnitude of shit introduced to them is extreme. An image is stubborn, as our minds, and when in anger, images become haunting negatives one after another. The suppression evokes anger building inside of them – this is eminent is most cab drivers.

I met a strong spirited local woman last night, she was in trading, in antiques, in art dealing, a freelancer – a free spirit. When she spoke to you there was this command of aura, the kind of beam you only get from a lover of actuality. Anyway she said she was sitting in a cab in a peachy mood, when the cab came to a crossing. There was a boy walking across the street incredibly slowly, taking his time, and smoking his cigarette. The cab driver scoffed and started murmuring to himself, when she giggled and said “shifu, it’s delightful. It looks like a painting, look at the boy in the sun, not caring about a single worry, looking around like he’s in his own world, smoking the cigarette, look at the smoke! ” (It sounds 100X more descriptive in Chinese) The driver looked at the boy for a while longer, and then responded with a chuckle. Just like that, you can alter a pessimistic image into a pleasant illustration.

It doesn’t have to make it an agreeable thing, it doesn’t need to change your beliefs, but it can change your spirit, and the way you see things, see the world in animation. Why have such a strong stigma about something, when you can invest your rage into something that could make you shine, even for a little while.  

Perhaps I’m being hypocritical, and I’m only being this introspective because, in Beijing, a romanticized moment is indefinite. But the mind’s skill to illustrate is immense, and everyone has a mind, and even if I fall short on thought imagery in Singapore, someone else more imaginative would be happier.

The beauty of Beijing is that it’s a quirky mix of a contemporary urban landscape with fierce culture. How long this beauty will be preserved is questionable, some local people complain that urbanization is sucking away their heritage. But you can still find it, like Maggie had said, “Why would I eat a man tou out of someone’s mouth, if I can find the original one. “ – Still sounds better in Chinese.  It’s still here on every corner, the way it invokes an excitement in me on a smoggy day. That’s why I still travel on the trishaw, even if other people see it as impractical, my mind sees it as a shivering girl sitting in wenhua catching up with an urban road – with of course, a cigarette in her hand.

When I was 14, I went out with a boy who convinced himself he was the messenger of God, or the Devil (apparently they’re a backdoor alliance). He told me his eyes were dead because of the visions he sees in his dreams (he was offended when I called them nightmares), and named himself after a demon. He leaned in for a kiss in a taxi when I dropped him off one afternoon, and until today I remember its name – “THE DEVIL’S QUICKSAND”.

THE DEVIL’S QUICKSAND
THE ECHO
THE PECKING SWALLOW
THE EAGER LEECH
THE TAP
THE HAMMMMMEERRRRRRR

Here I am wondering, how is it that I have a black Labrador named “Labbie”?

The troubles of unreliable internet in China, Microsoft word is my best friend, more so than tumblr.
^^

Here’s a drastic but realistic way to quit smoking, for people who aren’t addicted to the habit but the actual addictive ingredient.

Move to the coldest place on Earth which is currently Vostok, Antarctica (Was I the only person who didn’t know Antarctica had 2 Cs in it?).  You don’t need to worry about getting a job, because you are going to be homeless, with no gloves. That’s all.

I’m not officially allowed to smoke in the smoking room of my company’s office, because I am female. Therefore I slip outside of my office building every other hour to have a cigarette break.  I don’t wear a jacket because I wouldn’t want my boss to think I leave the office that often (and smoking, the horror!), and during autumn the chill was nice, but now it’s winter.

It’s only a little below 5 degrees, and I look like a huddling, shivering crack addict trying to smoke a cigarette. I’ve cut down to half a pack (on weekdays). Imagine the wonders you could do in a colder climate. Stop smoking today.